do or say around you！ If you prefer that something be different from the way
it is； you work from the certain knowledge that love and expanded
consciousness are absolutely enough to lead you to the optimal enjoyment of
your life。 Your striving； pushing； and dominating can only make surface
changes in the way people feel and act。 You need to deeply recognize that
these superficial changes are usually obtained at a heavy price in alienation
and unhappiness。 Your forcing usually brings only temporary changes on the
surface of behavior。 Since real love requires the unconditional acceptance of
another person； you are showing that you do not love him because there are
conditions he must fulfill before you can love him。
When you can love a person only if he or she is able to act in a fashion that
fits your addictive programming； you are treating the other person as an
object to be manipulated。 When you were growing up； you probably
experienced a lot of dominating behavior from your well…meaning parents。
You now have ego…backed programming that addictively resists dominating
“intrusions” into your life。 Of course； as you grow into higher consciousness；
you reprogram even these power…resisting addictions； so that dominating
behavior on the part of another person is understandingly seen for what it is
his entrapment in the Third Center of Consciousness。 Thus you select the
munications you find useful； and let the rest quietly go by and most
importantly； you no longer mirror another person’s addictive “stuff。”
It is important that you deeply perceive that love and expanded consciousness
are pletely enough to give you everything you need in your life。 For
example； if you like your coffee cooled before it is given to you to drink； you
can use a dominating impatience to “help” your friend remember to put a little
water into your coffee so that you can drink it as soon as you get it。 If he or
she forgets； you may show irritation to help him or her remember but in so
doing you will disturb your peace and serenity。 You will also disturb his or
her peace and serenity。 And you will produce a duality and alienation that
slightly dilutes the feelings of love that make the relationship delightful。 You
need to tell yourself that if you love that person and gently and lovingly
municate what you prefer； she or he will sooner or later remember to
make your coffee exactly the way you want it。 It is far better for you here
and now to lovingly get up and put a little water in your coffee than to engage
in alienating emotional behavior。 Keep telling yourself that your usual habits
of control and domination have never been enough to enable you to find the
love； peace； and serenity that you would like in your human relationships。
Remind yourself at every opportunity that love and expanded consciousness
can be enough but they must be deep and genuine and flow from your inner
being。
There is nothing about higher consciousness that says you have to bee
involved in other people’s predicaments。 You just learn to love them
unconditionally regardless of what they say or do。 You’re still entitled to
your own choices； and you can steer your boat down the river of your life in
any way that you want。 Just don’t keep crashing into the boats of other
people。
Suppose your friend Mary enjoys making fish chowder and puts in a lot of
pepper to make it hot and spicy。 Suppose also that you cannot enjoy chowder
when it has that much pepper。 Using the Seventh Pathway that advises you to
municate your feelings； you tell her that you cannot enjoy the chowder
when it has so much pepper。 Suppose Mary replies that it is better to put the
pepper in when it is cooking so that is can bee blended。 If you work
from the Power Level of Consciousness； you will get into an argument and
point out that it tastes just about as good if the pepper is added later by each
individual。 Then Mary will mirror your annoyance and soon love； peace；
and serenity have temporarily departed。 If Mary accepts your attempt to
dominate the situation to fit your inside pattern； she may leave out the pepper
but feel resentful towards you。 You will have less pepper； but you may also
have less love with your meal。
Now suppose you handle the problem of the pepper in the chowder with the
plete knowledge that love and expanded consciousness are always
enough。 You have previously municated your feelings about how the
pepper keeps you from enjoying the chowder。 If Mary serves the hot
chowder again； your love and expanded consciousness may tell you that it is
more flowing to test it with a single sip and then concentrate on enjoying the
people； the salad； and everything else around you。 Just steer your ship
around the rock gently and lovingly。
Don’t put out the vibration that you can’t enjoy the chowder because of the
pepper for this would just be another method of expressing irritation。
pletely accept the fact that you’re not supposed to be eating chowder
that night； and go ahead and enjoy whatever there is to enjoy。 Don’t put out
any feeling tones that could make Mary unfortable because you are
sacrificing yourself and not eating the chowder。 Just flow as though the
chowder had never been served。
If you can love Mary just as much when she does not follow your request to
leave out the pepper； it is very likely that your love and expanded
consciousness will enable you to enjoy unpeppered chowder the next time。
For Mary is a conscious being； and she will notice that you are not eating the
chowder。 She will also notice your plete acceptance of this； and she will
not be likely to get upset about it。 She will just accept it as “that which is。”
Mary will appreciate your not plaining repeatedly about putting in too
much pepper。 She may begin to feel that although she prefers putting in the
pepper when it is cooking； she has a greater preference for your enjoying the
chowder next time。 So you may find that Mary may quietly omit the pepper
the next time she makes the chowder。 If you can keep your consciousness
pletely free of the Power Center； you will help Mary stay away from her
Power Center。 And the simple matter of peppering the chowder will not
bee plex because of the ego stuff that you mirror back and forth。
And what if Mary does not choose to make the chowder the next time with
less pepper？ You simply accept that as being a part of the here and nowness
of your life。 You’re not supposed to be eating chowder when she fixes it。
This is not a great sacrifice。 You may not be enjoying chowder； but you are
enjoying love and serenity which are far more nourishing than any chowder
could ever be。 You are also helping Mary enjoy peace； love； and serenity and
this is the greatest gift that you could give her。 If you are addicted to
chowder and have to eat it； you could always go out and buy a cup for lunch
tomorrow。 You will find that your love and increased consciousness will
always give you the optimal ways to veer around problems or lovingly
eliminate them。
Always remember that the individual with the higher consciousness is the one
who is most flexible who avoids fixed patterns who flows in every life
situation so as not to get involved in addictive irritations。 The individual with
the higher consciousness creates a peaceful world in which to live。 This can
be done regardless of whether or not you are with people who are
consciously working on their growth。 It takes two people to have an ego
battle。 But it only takes one person to create the peace and love of higher
consciousness！ The other person does not have to know the Living Love Way
and does not have to be trying to reprogram his alienating addictions。 He can
be inflexible； power…oriented； ego…dominated； and hostile。 If you can operate
from the Love Level of Consciousness or any higher level； your love and your
conscious perceptiveness will enable you to flow in every situation。
Once we see the possibility of living in a peaceful and loving world all of the
time （regardless of anything people may do or say）； we find that there are
certain life situations that often flip us back into the power level of
consciousness。 For example； our power addicti