the world in which you live when heaven is there all the time！ The words
and actions of people are sent by your various senses into the analytical and
interpretive sections of your bioputer。 When outside patterns do not fit
your inner programmed patterns； you respond with negative emotional
feelings such as anger； fear； jealousy； resentment； etc。； and create your
experience of unhappiness （see right…hand box and bottom box in Diagram 1）。
This leads you to the fourth phase of the Wheel of Unhappiness。 You then
begin to criticize and reject yourself and others。 You municate with
words； vocal tones； facial expressions； and body gestures that either you are
rotten or the world is rotten； or perhaps both。 Your rational mind criticizes
other people and finds fault with them。 It gives you reasons why they are
“fools；” “idiots；” “uncaring monsters；” “evil beings；” or whatever。 Or you
may use programming that turns your rational mind against yourself and
creates the experience that you are inadequate； hopeless； inept； dumb；
inferior； crazy； or whatever。
This alienating subject…object feedback then begins to change the behavior of
people and the characteristics of the life conditions around you （we’re back to
the top box in Diagram 1）。 In other words； your negative feedback begins to
make a dramatic change in the response of the people and conditions around
you。 You thus create an environment of antagonistic people and situations。
Now the Wheel of Unhappiness begins to turn and the people around you
begin to respond with words and actions that reflect their negative feelings to
your criticism and rejection。 Then this feeds back into your emotional
programming and triggers more anger； fear； jealousy； or up…tight emotions。
And you react by criticizing yourself more and criticizing others more。 （See
Diagram 1）。 This feeds back into the people and situations around you and
turns them against you even more。 。。。 And things bee even worse in your
life as the cycle turns and turns and turns in a downward spiral。 Your rational
mind may accept this downward spiral as proof that your life is impossible；
that people are horrible； and that there is no way of “making it” in life。
A human being trapped in the Wheel of Unhappiness does not realize that the
world is not “doing it” to him。 The defenses of ego （aided and abetted by the
rational mind） make it extremely difficult for him to realize that he is doing it
to himself。 He can prove that people are really treating him that way。 And
they are； of course。 What he doesn’t see is that his continuous criticism and
rejection of the outside life energies have conditioned people to respond to
him in that way。 The same people could have responded in an entirely
different way。 At any time； they could have been loving and supporting； and
the Wheel of Happiness could have been set in motion。
A person trapped in the Wheel of Unhappiness will spend almost all of his or
her energy trying hopelessly to manipulate the people and situations to fit his
or her programming。 Although this was one of the few responses available at
age two； it is by no means the most effective response available to a human
adult that has the potential for higher consciousness。 A higher consciousness
being realizes that the people and things in his or her life are only minimally
changeable by a consciousness that creates the experiences of life through the
three lower Centers。 After all； you don’t want people trying to force you to
change。 And； whenever you perceive attempts to dominate you or control
you； you develop a great resistance。 The more they try to change you； the
more you try to go the other way。 A higher consciousness being realizes that
there is only one way to genuinely change the words and actions of people to
fit his inner programmed preferences without turning the Wheel of
Unhappiness and that is through loving munication from a
consciousness that is not emotionally upset。
When you are trapped in the Wheel of Unhappiness； you have no conception
that you are futilely directing your energies in the useless attempt to use
conniving and emotional pressure to change the words and actions of people
around you。 And so； unlike the rat who adapts to the fact that the cheese is
no longer located in the third tunnel； you keep yourself trapped by trying to
manipulate and change the people and things in your life。 The problems you
had at age two are gone yet you are unconsciously playing out the methods
you used back then。 These obsolete solutions deprive you of the opportunity
to fully experience and enjoy your life。
When you apply a heavy enough power trip； you may make certain changes
in the life energies around you。 But if you were conscious of the enormous
separation and alienation that your criticism and manipulation creates with the
people around you； you would realize that you cannot afford the price in lost
happiness that you pay for the precious few changes you may force on the
surface。 The only changes that you can make； without paying a large penalty；
are those changes that gently and easily happen when you make a loving
munication。 When that won’t do it； you should work on releasing
yourself from your inner addictions and emotion…backed demands that are
controlling or dominating your consciousness。
How do you stop the downward spiraling of the Wheel of Unhappiness and
start converting it into an upward Spiral of Happiness？ You need to redirect
your energy from trying to change the outer life energies； to changing your
inner programming （see Diagram 2）。 There are no methods available that will
enable you to successfully change all of the outer life energies around you to
fit your inner emotional programming。 You could have the power of a king；
the prestige of a movie star； or the knowledge of a Ph。D。； but the condition of
your life would still remain the same you win some and you lose some。 By
using the Five Methods of Living Love； you have the capacity to change your
own inner programming。 There is a huge supply of cheese waiting for you；
but you can only get to it by working on your own inner programming so that；
here and now； you can emotionally accept the people and situations in your
life。
When you work on your inner adaptation； by reprogramming the emotionbacked
demands you place on people and situations in your life； you will find
that the life situations and energies that used to create unhappiness will be
neutral or positive in their effect on your happiness。 Your energy；
perceptiveness； and ability to love unconditionally will make you invulnerable
to suffering。 And so the third phase of Diagram 2 shows that you begin to
feed back a loving acceptance of the people and situations around you。
Just as your criticism strongly affects the life energies around you； your
positive feedback can begin to powerfully affect the life energies around you。
The more you lovingly accept people in your life； without conditions； the
more you free them to enjoy being around you。 Their egos and rational minds
do not have to stay in a paranoid or defensive place； and when they are with
you they can begin to experience themselves free of security； sensation； and
power addictions that you formerly reflected or set off in them。 This frees
their energy to experience themselves and you without a “tunnel vision”
effect。 They begin to feel free and liberated around you。 They develop a
deep trust that you will remain tuned…in； centered； and loving no matter what
they do。 They can just relax and enjoy； and begin to groove in a loving；
mutually supportive space with you。
Instead of negatively affecting the life energies around you； so as to put
people even more out of phase with your programming （as in Diagram 1）；
people may now begin to change their feelings in ways that begin to fit your
Preferential Programming。 And if they don’t change； it doesn’t matter
because it was only a “preference” anyway。 Since you are largely free from
Addictive Programming； they don’t have to walk around like they’re tiptoeing
on eggs all the time。 They can just relax and flow with their own inner
vibrations and energies for they know